人生。一番

人生は道路のようだ。一番の近道は、たいてい一番悪い道だ。

礼。

子曰：“恭而无礼则劳，慎而无礼则葸，勇而无礼则乱，直而无礼则绞。”

共勉之。

对与错

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我们常常会争论谁对谁错的问题，往往为了一件小事，大家争论得脸红脖子粗，公说公有理，婆说婆有理，似乎不争论出个结果决不罢休，甚至由此产生怨气、影响情绪，更有甚者，就难说会出现什么后果了。那最后就真能争论出个结果吗？往往不是！真正最后给出结果的是时间，是事实！

其实很多时候，彼此完全是可以宽容的、包涵的，也是可以显出个人风度的，没必要、也不值得花那些精力去争论的。那我们常常又争论不休，究竟为什么？

我想，两种情况最典型：一是认为自己被冤枉，于是，据理力争，非得弄个是非黑白，也就是说，不给个说法就不行，自己总觉得蒙怨受屈；二是为了争个脸面，这种情况，争论一旦开始，与争论的内容是什么几乎就没有了太大的关系，仅仅是要争个面子而已。

很多人争论对错，经常使用的语句是：明明是我对、干嘛说我错，我没错就不该说我错，错不在我，为什么你不承认错误，等等。我想，这些话里所反映的、或者说争论者最关心就是一个问题：别人怎么看我的问题。因为我不能被别人说成是错的，无论是说错话、做错事，等等！

难道别人的看法就真的那么重要吗？

其实，我想，每个人根本就不必太在乎别人的看法的，别人的看法终究是别人的，自己怎么看就好，因为自己怎么看才是自己的！太在乎别人的看法，那就等于在帮别人活，而不是帮自己活，岂不很亏！

无论自己对或者错，都是我们学习和进步的好机会，因为一旦出现对错的分歧，这时彼此其实就可以停止了，不如利用点时间去进行一下分析总结，不管是从自己身上还是从他人身上，都有可能汲取到经验和教训。

再说，很多时候，根本就没有什么完全的对和错！对和错不过是事物正反的两个方面罢了，很多时候事物并非是由两面组成的，甚至有多个面，不同的视角就会有不同的效果。只是要知道这么些面，或许需要经历时间和风雨的磨练才能真正懂得吧。正如一快石头，有棱有角，甚至方方正正，几个面可能很容易看得清楚，但经历风雨沧桑和磨砺后，棱角自然就不存在在了，但有多少个面也实在不再容易数得清楚。这并非是所谓的圆滑！

无论承认也好，不承认也好，认为对也好，错也好，事物就是它本身的样子！因此，我们就完全没必要费那么大力气去争论。其实，人人心中都有一杆称，至于自己是轻是重，或许有人有意无意称不准你，但绝大多数人是能称得准的，更重要的是，自己得称准了自己！

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體貼別人，體貼自己的心。

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我們的教育能否教育出這種小孩吗？這種媽媽呢？

這事發生在普吉島的 ClubMed 渡假村。

有一天，在大廳裡，突然看見一位滿臉歉意的日本工作人員，安慰著一位大 約四歲的西方小孩，飽受驚嚇的小孩已經哭得精疲力盡了。

原來這位日本工作人員，因為那天小孩較多，一時疏忽，在兒童網球課結束後，少算了一位，將這位澳洲小孩留在網球場。

等到她發現人數不對時，才趕快跑到網球場，將這位小孩帶回來，小孩因為一個人在偏遠的網球場，飽受驚嚇，哭得浠浬嘩啦的。

現在澳洲媽媽出現了，看著自己的小孩哭得慘兮兮的。如果你是這位媽媽，你會怎麼做？是痛罵那位工作人員一頓？還是直接向主管抗議？或是很生氣的將小孩帶離開，再也不參加『兒童俱樂部』了？

都不是！請看--

我親眼看見這位媽媽，蹲下來安慰四歲的小孩，並且很理性的告訴他：『已經沒事了，那位日本姊姊因為找不到妳而非常的緊張難過，她不是故意的，現在你必須親親那位日本姊姊的臉頰，安慰她一下！』

當下那位四歲的小孩，墊起腳跟，親親蹲在他身旁的日本工作人員的臉頰，並且輕輕的告訴她：『不要害怕，已經沒事了！』

就是要這樣的教育，才能養出寬容、體貼的孩子吧！ 體貼別人，也等於體貼了自己的心。

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宽心谣

宽 　心 　谣 　　(赵 朴 初)

日出东海落西山，愁也一天，喜也一天。
遇事不钻牛角尖，人也舒坦，心也舒坦。
每月领取养老钱，多也喜欢，少也喜欢。
少荤多素日三餐，粗也香甜，细也香甜。
新旧衣服不挑拣，好也御寒，赖也御寒。
常与知己聊聊天，古也谈谈，今也谈谈。
内孙外孙同样看，儿也心欢，女也心欢。
全家老小互慰勉，贫也相安，富也相安。
早晚操劳勤锻炼，忙也乐观，闲也乐观。
心宽体胖养天年，不是神仙，胜似神仙。

共勉之。。。

和谐

适当的妥协就能换来难得的和谐。

Beware of Garbage Trucks!

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Beware of Garbage Trucks
By David J. Pollay

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive colleague ruin your day? Unless you're a robot, you are bound to blow your top off. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly he or she can get back his or her focus on what's important.

Sixteen years ago, I learned this lesson. I learn it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happen.

I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was really friendly. So, I said, 'Why did you do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now called, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck'.

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. If they happen to dump it on you, don't take it personally.

You just smile, wave, wish them well, and moved on. You'll be happier if you did that rather than fight them.

So this was it: 'The Law of the Garbage Truck'.

I started thinking, how often do I let garbage trucks run right over me? And how often do
I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the street? It was that day I said, 'I'm not going to do it anymore.' I see garbage trucks everywhere and everyday. I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my taxi driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.

Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good parents know they have to welcome their kids home from school with hugs and kisses. Teachers and parents know that they have to be fully present and at their best for the people they care about.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. What about you? What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by?

Here's my bet. You'll be happier.

So...love the people who treat you right.
Forget about the ones who don't.

Believe that every thing happens for a reason.
If you get a chance, TAKE IT!
If it changes your life, LET IT!
Nobody said it would be easy...
They just promised it would be WORTH IT

Cheers! "Life is short. Enjoy the journey."

难方

The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.

- Albert Einstein
(attributed)US (German-born) physicist (1879 - 1955)